GOALS: social

This one is much harder to think through.

Background: I don't think I'm an asshole, but, then again, how we view ourselves is often very different from how others view us. After 40 years, I think I know myself pretty well and can at least spell out my pros and cons.

GOOD
I'm fun and honest. I've have been really honest with my wife and trust her with everything I have. I'm a good father and try and spend lots of quality time with my kids. I work hard and bring creativity into my work.

BAD
I'm really self-centered. Wow, it's hard to write that, but it's true. I definately look out for me first. I'm not a great son -- that is, I don't give back enough to my folks, especially my Mom. Again, having to spend so much time on recreating my physical nature seems self-indulgent, but it's not, it's the frame upon which the other aspects hang.

GOALS
More, better quality time with wife and kids; kids get a sense of what they really love and begin really going after one to several of those things. More attention and love to my Mom -- helping her to deal with her illnesses. Same with estranged Dad. Become a better listener. Don't talk so much. Don't judge others so much and so quickly. All these things, yes, are tough to measure, but it's a "you'll know it when you see it" kind of thing.